Posted here, though I have no idea if it will make it through mod:
"And my answer is this: If people like you would show some compassion and stop using hate speech like “kill yourself” — and would start considering that the way you talk about BDSM is influencing real people who feel real shame and real despair — thenThe thing is, Clarisse, that I honestly think some of these folks think it's good that we think of suicide.
(a) kinksters would be less likely to entertain thoughts of suicide — or commit suicide,"
I don't think anyone in here is actually saying "Go kill yourself" and meaning it.
But I do think that people are saying the world would be safer and sparklier and better if we were not in it.
They wouldn't hand us the guns or the pills -- most people aren't that cruel -- but as long as our despair is not directly their doing, they don't care. They don't see us as fully human.
Until they do, this won't get anywhere. We can talk about how alienated it makes us feel, but until they accept that we are no less people than they are, our stories of nearly killing ourselves will be amusing to them. They will laugh at our weakness, and that will be that.
It won't ever occur to them that it's the same despair that drives the gay youth to believe she should be dead. In fact, the comparison will offend.
Until we are people to them, this is nothing but dark fun.